Let's Talk About Sex, Babyyyy − 16 October, 2007
Let’s talk about sexxxxx, lalalalalala
I’m the Go-To Girl for Sextalks and advice and resources. So I sing it a lot. I shake it all about while looking for that chapter or line...
Friends ask me all kinds of stuff. They know I know about it, read about it, heard about it or can find the answer. Anal sex, masturbation, viagra, impotence, lack of feminine desire, pregnancy scares, menopause, andropause, nymphomania, sexual positions, G-spot, whatever it is, I can talk about it, nothing’s taboo. I know where they can go for their crisis ! Clinics, pharmacy, sex shops…
I guess it has to do with my mom’s boyfriend’s sex encylopedias. When I was between nine and eleven, I found a series of books on sex. There was one on children, one on pre-teens, one on teens, one on young adults, one on adults and one on the problems of sexuality. The black and white TV and the Commodore 64 were right beside the book case where the books were and I used to read very long passages of these books during TV commercials or during my sister’s time on the computer. Before I was 12, I knew a lot about the theory of sexuality. The functions of the reproductory system and how sex happens, puberty, periods, even sexual problems. Of course, I had no expertise on the matter and didn’t intend to. I wasn’t really curious about sex. It’s just that every time I found something to read I read it. I found sex books so I read them. It was so interesting and nothing like the books my mom got me about it.
When I entered college I did have more sex experience and I decided to take a class in sexual psychology. Interesting but not quite what I was looking for. I kept the book anyway because I read way more than the class required to and there were many pages that were colored by my markers. The more I got experience and the more I got curious so the more I read, bought books and magazines.
I also used to work with kids and teens in a library for a couple of years and I was the Go-To for sex ed. I bought so many books for the library, including the sex books I had when I was younger and many more. No taboos while talking with kids either. The truth adjusted for their age and what they really needed to know. Since it was in a rough neighbourhood, even 5 year-olds knew what prostitutes were so conversations were very interesting.
Years passed and now I’m 33 and sexuality isn’t such a mystery anymore in practice or in theory. I know what I want and don’t want, I know my body, I know my body responds differently when I’m alone or when I’m with someone. I also know that fantasies are better as just fantasies than when they become realities. I know that reality is better shared with someone caring and loving and respectful, that playing « sex without emotions » isn’t fun and that finding someone you fit with sexually is hard work. Most of the time, I don’t even want to try. Just by the attitude someone has I can judge his attitude in bed. Can’t hear the word no ? Won’t hear it in bed. Sloppy eater ? Sloppy fucker. Can’t communicate clearly ? Won’t be able to do it in bed or has a mate. Seems angry a lot of the time ? Don’t want to take a chance. Says a lot of disparaging things about how I dress, how I look ? What will he say in bed…
Friends call me because they know I won’t judge them. I know how they think. They also know I will play mommy and tell them to « wear a helmet » or "not forget to put up the tent while camping" every single time. They know I have books I can look into for info and that I will send info from the web if none of my books have the answer. For example : nymphomania. No books I have talk about it. I had to explain what it was and then find confirmation on the web.
Am I proud of it ? Yes. While other people judge, while people can’t talk, my friends and colleagues come to me for the latest news and to know what’s what. It doesn't make me a slut. I'm well informed, practical and analytical. Sex is sex. Part of human behavior. Part of our needs.
So let’s talk about sex, baby !
I’m the Go-To Girl for Sextalks and advice and resources. So I sing it a lot. I shake it all about while looking for that chapter or line...
Friends ask me all kinds of stuff. They know I know about it, read about it, heard about it or can find the answer. Anal sex, masturbation, viagra, impotence, lack of feminine desire, pregnancy scares, menopause, andropause, nymphomania, sexual positions, G-spot, whatever it is, I can talk about it, nothing’s taboo. I know where they can go for their crisis ! Clinics, pharmacy, sex shops…
I guess it has to do with my mom’s boyfriend’s sex encylopedias. When I was between nine and eleven, I found a series of books on sex. There was one on children, one on pre-teens, one on teens, one on young adults, one on adults and one on the problems of sexuality. The black and white TV and the Commodore 64 were right beside the book case where the books were and I used to read very long passages of these books during TV commercials or during my sister’s time on the computer. Before I was 12, I knew a lot about the theory of sexuality. The functions of the reproductory system and how sex happens, puberty, periods, even sexual problems. Of course, I had no expertise on the matter and didn’t intend to. I wasn’t really curious about sex. It’s just that every time I found something to read I read it. I found sex books so I read them. It was so interesting and nothing like the books my mom got me about it.
When I entered college I did have more sex experience and I decided to take a class in sexual psychology. Interesting but not quite what I was looking for. I kept the book anyway because I read way more than the class required to and there were many pages that were colored by my markers. The more I got experience and the more I got curious so the more I read, bought books and magazines.
I also used to work with kids and teens in a library for a couple of years and I was the Go-To for sex ed. I bought so many books for the library, including the sex books I had when I was younger and many more. No taboos while talking with kids either. The truth adjusted for their age and what they really needed to know. Since it was in a rough neighbourhood, even 5 year-olds knew what prostitutes were so conversations were very interesting.
Years passed and now I’m 33 and sexuality isn’t such a mystery anymore in practice or in theory. I know what I want and don’t want, I know my body, I know my body responds differently when I’m alone or when I’m with someone. I also know that fantasies are better as just fantasies than when they become realities. I know that reality is better shared with someone caring and loving and respectful, that playing « sex without emotions » isn’t fun and that finding someone you fit with sexually is hard work. Most of the time, I don’t even want to try. Just by the attitude someone has I can judge his attitude in bed. Can’t hear the word no ? Won’t hear it in bed. Sloppy eater ? Sloppy fucker. Can’t communicate clearly ? Won’t be able to do it in bed or has a mate. Seems angry a lot of the time ? Don’t want to take a chance. Says a lot of disparaging things about how I dress, how I look ? What will he say in bed…
Friends call me because they know I won’t judge them. I know how they think. They also know I will play mommy and tell them to « wear a helmet » or "not forget to put up the tent while camping" every single time. They know I have books I can look into for info and that I will send info from the web if none of my books have the answer. For example : nymphomania. No books I have talk about it. I had to explain what it was and then find confirmation on the web.
Am I proud of it ? Yes. While other people judge, while people can’t talk, my friends and colleagues come to me for the latest news and to know what’s what. It doesn't make me a slut. I'm well informed, practical and analytical. Sex is sex. Part of human behavior. Part of our needs.
So let’s talk about sex, baby !
Comments:
edunn (October 17, 2007. 02:59am)
You are the dandelife Dr. Ruth!
Bazookah 5 (October 17, 2007. 12:54pm)
I'm Dr.Ruth, I'm a Fembot, I'm Fembotruth !!